We all pick choices (I prefer “make” choices), but we must remember that not all choices are equal. Who we pick as our spouse is a major decision. The cereal we pick on a given morning is not. But they are all made with the best information we have at that moment or information we have developed up until that moment. And most choices are not permanent; we can change our minds as we experience the consequences of our choices. The goal is to make choices in such a way that we develop good judgment, which I think is the goal.
I very much agree. Trivial decisions shouldn't weigh us down in the same was as major life decisions. One thing I picked up on while researching for this post, is that maximizers actually tend to make "better" decisions than satisficers, objectively speaking. But subjectively they feel worse about them compared to the satisficers.
So I think part of good judgement isn't necessarily making objectively better choices, but slowly mastering the art of self-compassion and narrating the internal story we tell ourselves in such a way we accept that 'suboptimal decisions' allow us to learn and maximized decisions are no guarantee of any greater life fulfillment.
We all pick choices (I prefer “make” choices), but we must remember that not all choices are equal. Who we pick as our spouse is a major decision. The cereal we pick on a given morning is not. But they are all made with the best information we have at that moment or information we have developed up until that moment. And most choices are not permanent; we can change our minds as we experience the consequences of our choices. The goal is to make choices in such a way that we develop good judgment, which I think is the goal.
Bill (630)
I very much agree. Trivial decisions shouldn't weigh us down in the same was as major life decisions. One thing I picked up on while researching for this post, is that maximizers actually tend to make "better" decisions than satisficers, objectively speaking. But subjectively they feel worse about them compared to the satisficers.
So I think part of good judgement isn't necessarily making objectively better choices, but slowly mastering the art of self-compassion and narrating the internal story we tell ourselves in such a way we accept that 'suboptimal decisions' allow us to learn and maximized decisions are no guarantee of any greater life fulfillment.